Post by BeyondThePalet on Mar 15, 2018 7:23:44 GMT
I'm a baby dm and I'm having trouble with one of my players and could use some advise.
A little background My group is made up of coworkers who are all varying level of friends with one another. 3 of the players are brand new to dnd, 2 haven't played since 3.5e, and only 1 is a regular player of all versions.
The player that is a problem is causing issue both in game and out of game with with my other players.
She is consistently going off and doing whatever she want, which I've been able to sort of manage, but the other players can't stand that she does these things in the first place because it can derail the the game for a good 10-30 minutes(we only play in 4hr sessions each week due to schedule conflicts) to get her back on track. She's also causing problems at work with the girls which has caused one of the girls to stop showing up to our meet ups because she gets so frustrated with her at work and then has to come and get more frustrated with her in our campaign.the girl who has not shown up the last few games is thinking of quitting because she's gotten so far behind everyone else and the story. The problem girl doesn't listen, and I'm worried that if I come off too strong to her It could cause problems at work or more tension between everyone. I need help, another one of players has said she almost feels like quitting because of this girl.
I'm at such a loss,I hate all this side drama and what it's doing to our campaign.
I do not envy this situation, and it is unfortunate that you are in it. I'm not sure how directly you have spoken to the person about the issues that others are experiencing. With others feeling so put out that they no longer want to attend the group then a conversation likely needs to happen. That said, the conversations framing is the more difficult thing. The first could be generalized things about the group being a cohesive unit and the limelight being even rather than focused on any one character. Even that second one could be difficult. If a generalized conversation doesn't have a significant impact on their actions then a more pointed one is most likely the next step. If that doesn't change things then it is possible that your table is not the one for them. The fact that it could negatively affect your work environment is the toughest thing for sure. That said, not knowing where you work I'm not sure what is in place to report stop that kind of behavior. The fact that it is already negatively affecting things I would focus on resolving the issue ijn the best way that you can see before the group falls apart.
You know these people better than anyone here, so definitely take anything said as a guide and not law. There may be no clean conclusion to this, but the person may not realize what they are doing as well.