Post by friartook on Apr 8, 2019 15:14:14 GMT
Hello everyone, its been a long time since I posted here. I'll be honest and say that I am woefully behind on my DMB listening...but I'm feeling frustrated with my game group, and needed a reminder that others share my enthusiasm for RPGs.
I've run a game group for several years, on and off, with a more or less consistent roster of players. All of them were brand new to TTRPGs when we started the group, so a consistent problem (for me) has been a wide enthusiasm gap. I'm always the biggest nerd in the room. I have to spearhead all the scheduling, herd all the cats, wrangle everyone into doing their "homework", record all the sessions (only to post them and have the players not listen to the posted sessions), push the group to get back together after gaps, and (recently) host.
I am also, by far, the person with the busiest life and fullest schedule.
I'm exhausted.
All of these people are my friends, and they are all friends with each other. All of them say they want to game. When we miss sessions, all of them complain to me and wail about missing our gaming time. But when the chips are down, I'm the one who has to put in the work.
Recently, I joined another game with some folks online, just to be a player. Just to remember what that feels like. Now this week, I have to skip that game session in order to host the group I GM for on an odd day, because one player has to be out of town and another has to cover a shift at work. We only meet every other week, so if I cancel, I have to pull teeth to get everything re-scheduled or we go 3 weeks without meeting.
I know the solution: talk to the group. I plan to. I am not asking for advice. I just wanted to vent to a group of like-minded and sympathetic people. I just wanted to know that for once, I wasn't the biggest nerd in the room...
I've run a game group for several years, on and off, with a more or less consistent roster of players. All of them were brand new to TTRPGs when we started the group, so a consistent problem (for me) has been a wide enthusiasm gap. I'm always the biggest nerd in the room. I have to spearhead all the scheduling, herd all the cats, wrangle everyone into doing their "homework", record all the sessions (only to post them and have the players not listen to the posted sessions), push the group to get back together after gaps, and (recently) host.
I am also, by far, the person with the busiest life and fullest schedule.
I'm exhausted.
All of these people are my friends, and they are all friends with each other. All of them say they want to game. When we miss sessions, all of them complain to me and wail about missing our gaming time. But when the chips are down, I'm the one who has to put in the work.
Recently, I joined another game with some folks online, just to be a player. Just to remember what that feels like. Now this week, I have to skip that game session in order to host the group I GM for on an odd day, because one player has to be out of town and another has to cover a shift at work. We only meet every other week, so if I cancel, I have to pull teeth to get everything re-scheduled or we go 3 weeks without meeting.
I know the solution: talk to the group. I plan to. I am not asking for advice. I just wanted to vent to a group of like-minded and sympathetic people. I just wanted to know that for once, I wasn't the biggest nerd in the room...